Heart my Husband!

We laugh.  A lot.  Together.  He's funny.  He's caring.  He's a fantastic father.  What's not to love?  

A Friend of ours is dating a widow who is in her early 30's.  (He's in his late 20's, never married, always dated the STUPID, not dumb, blonde-type.)  It was kind of weird to hear about.  Someone leans over to whisper to you that this woman at the table is his new chick.  (Duh, like I hadn't figured that out!) Then the very next thing you hear is, "She's a widow."  

My response:  Oh.  

What the heck else was I supposed to say?  I'm not really sure what the implications of this label are... or for that matter, why it's even relevant to the situation at hand.  Well, no, I do realize that as friends we're all wanting to make sure other Friend is happy, so the concern was the "is she ready to date" issue.  Which in reality is not for us to judge anyway.  

So that whole interchange got me thinking... if anything ever happened to DH could I date again?  Could I remarry?  My first inclination is to Scarlet O'Hara the whole thought - "I'll just think about that tomorrow."  (Or never, God willing!) But it kept nagging at me.  

Short answer - No.  

Long Answer - What I have with my husband is a once-in-a-lifetime kind of relationship.  Nothing could ever compare.  Oddly, not even my children.  Do not get me wrong, I would walk through fire for my daughters, but I also realize that in 15 years they will move out of my house at which point it's just going to be my husband and me.  They will go on to get married and have families of their own.  Husbands I pray they are crazy about.  Also, my spouse has been my only CHOICE for love.  You know, that old adage that you can't pick your family?  Well, it's mostly right.  You're stuck with your parents from birth (sometimes you might even like them! ;-) ), you can try to shape and guide your children, but my spouse is the only love in my life that I'm not tied to by blood.  I'm related by choice.  The enormity of that decision has never been wasted on me.  I realize that everyday I am making a conscious choice to love and live with this wonderful man who routinely cracks me up.  And after all, what's life without laughter?  

We have a great time together.  Two sides of the same coin, etc, etc.  

Yeah, I heart my hubby!